Thursday, May 24, 2012
Supporting Children of Divorced Parents
If you’re like me and move to a new city every few years chances are you’ve had to try to make friends all over again…a slow process sometimes. When you work it is easier to meet people but again, it takes a time. I have met some interesting people who share similar interests in outdoor activities through the meet up forums.But maybe this was because it was outside India.
I decided to browse for a support group for a friend who happens to be recently divorced and is moving to new city (within India). My next step was of course to look for support services for her son…I should have known better…
All I could find were groups with a list of single men willing to try anything, never mind the divorce! My first reaction was to burst out laughing (which I did) but then I sobered down.
If it is so difficult to have a support group for divorced women, how on earth will I find supportive activities for her child? It brings to mind my other friend here, who spends a good chunk of his time mentoring a young boy from his son’s school—because the boy’s dad is not in the picture. My friend helps the young man with his homework, and attends his football games along with his children’s games.
My friend’s wife takes the time and effort to cook the young man’s favorite dishes and is available to pick him up or drop him off for appointments—the same as her children. There is neither a monetary exchange nor a religious requirement, just a human need fulfilled without any expectation or obligation.
I know many of us are open to helping young children whose parent has died. We often don’t extend that support to children of divorced parents. But to get that stage we have to first begin to treat the divorced parent, especially women with respect. Not that men don’t deserve respect but let’s be honest, our society does treat divorced women as second class subjects:(
Posted by Ms. S at 5:00 AM